Ways to Dump Your Lover

Ok now instead of being the one who is getting dumped, you are the one who needs to do the dumping. The relationship is just not working and you have got to figure out a way to make the torture end. Not that serious? Maybe the relationship is just not right for you and you are looking to move on. No matter the intensity of the need to break up, the need is there. While the need is there, you still do not know how exactly to go about it. Is there a right way and a wrong way of breaking up? An easier or harder way? A less or more hurtful way? If you are looking for ways to end a relationship, here are just a few to help you get started. Even if you don't want to use one of these specifically, there may be a great idea in here that will give you the perfect way to end the relationship.

The first way you can end a relationship is to ignore phone calls or other communications from the person. This is only recommended with a new relationship, not someone with whom you have had a lasting bond. If the person is constantly being blown off or ignored by you, they will likely get the hint and go away. If you can't get that to work, you may consider switching phone numbers. If the person doesn't eventually get the hint, there may be an element to that person that you definitely do not want to mess with. Again this is only recommended for relationship in which there is no serious commitment involved.

Another thing you can do is to simply come straight out and tell the person that you are just not interested or you don't think this relationship is right anymore. A lot of times this may seem like a more cruel, more painful way of dumping someone, but there is the definite connection with the band aid analogy. Ripping off the band aid in a swift motion may hurt like hell, but at least the pain is quick. Letting the relationship die a slow and pitiful death is akin to slowly and torturously pulling off a band aid. The pain is still there, only it's slower and more difficult.

Just coming out and telling them that you are no longer interested is recommended to be done in person, however, if you need to feel some kind of disconnection when you are breaking up with someone, there is also a choice of writing a letter or breaking up via phone. While these are seen as slightly less courageous, you may wish to make the ending of the relationship easier on yourself.

If the reason you are breaking up with someone is because you are working on yourself, let them know. Don't let them take the blame for a relationship that is ending because you are getting to know yourself better. Truth is, sometimes you need to take a break from being with others to just be with yourself. If this is the case, tell them out of respect.

These are just some ideas that may help you through initiating a break up. You will have to come to terms and make peace with any method you choose to end a relationship. Always remember, your ultimate goal is to get rid of a relationship that doesn't work, however, don't disregard the other person's feelings in the process. If it were you, how would you want the situation handled?