Signs You Are Headed for Heart Ache
Getting dumped is not a pleasant thing to have to go through. However, as unpleasant as it can be, there are usually ways to tell if your significant other is looking to break up with you. All you have to do is keep your eyes open and watch for the signs of a relationship going bad. Knowing your relationship is headed for the rocks can be very painful, but at the same time it is also good to know what is going on in your life and your relationship.
One of the first things you should look for if your relationship is headed south is if your loved one looks to get off the phone quickly when he or she is talking to you. If they can't wait to end the conversation, chances are they have something else on their minds. This is definitely not a SURE sign that your loved one is looking to leave, just be cautious and aware of the situation.
Another thing that might be an indicator that your lover is longing for freedom is if he or she won't talk about the future. If your loved one is constantly avoiding talking about any future you may or may not have together, this could be indicative of not wanting to stick around. When you're significant other is so commitment shy that you can't plan your WEEK ahead, it's time to think.
One more thing to look out for to see if your relationship is indeed winding down is if your significant other picks unnecessary, silly fights with you. Often, this is a sign of wanting the relationship to end, but not wanting to make the first move. Picking insignificant fights with you is a way for your significant other to try to make you angry enough to break up with them. They get the desired result effect without having to be the monster that directly causes all the heart ache. This is a sneaky way to get the job done but it often works.
Another thing to keep an eye out for is when your significant other loses interest in sex. This is an indicator that he or she is cooling off in the romance department as well. This is a big one. This sign is very hard to miss and it could mean very bad things for the future of your relationship.
One final thing to watch out for when you think your relationship is on aq downward spiral is if he or she wants "some space" or "to see other people." This is not a good sign. It's a way to "ease" out of the relationship without making a big deal out of it. BEWARE! This is not as innocuous as it seems. Chances are, as soon as you let him or her go, he or she will make a run for it.
None of these scenarios are ever concrete signs that something is wrong with your relationship. Chances are, however, that they are definitely not good signs. Do not become paranoid, but be smart. Pay attention to signs that are trying to smack you right in the face. Best advice? Take a deep breath and communicate. It won't hurt any less if you let it fester until you are both uncomfortable. Get it out there in the open if you think something is going on.